So like so many of you know, I am a single Mother. As such there's things I must provide; food, clothing, shelter, unconditional Love....just to name a few essentials. But there's other things expected that because you're doing so much on your own, you sometimes can't do.
This weekend happens to be my Daughter's second birthday..and because of just starting my job, bills, and other miscellaneous things I can't really afford to throw her the type of party I'd like to. To be honest with you...its taring me up inside. My Mother (who was also a single parent) tells me all the time that we all go through it, she will have fun no matter what she does, or she won't remember she didn't have a party...and there's a part of me that knows what she's saying is true but it doesn't take the feeling away. It feels like I've failed her on her special day.
Just like every other parent, you want to give your children anything and everything. You especially want to give them everything you didn't have as a child. Well so far, even though I'm a young Mother, that plan isn't working out too well and you're really reminded of it when an occasion like this comes up. But we'll do something, she'll get lots of hugs and kisses, eat some birthday cake, and probably have a wonderful day not even realizing she's gone without anything.....but I'll know. For now I just pray next year will be different and I can do something to trump and make up for this year.
Anyone else ever feel this way? Let me know I'm not alone haha
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Sorry girl! :( honestly sh will never know the difference! love is all that matters <3
thank you girl. I know you're right...its just a hard feeling to shake.
I can't think of one single thing I missed out on in my childhood...and I'm sure there were plenty! She'll have fun in the play area of McDonald's with some Mcnuggets! :)
You're doing great brit. Have fun this weekend, whatever you do!
Didn't I just tell you you are a good mother??? Where is this crap coming from? I saw the pictures of you with the baby at the park, at the zoo, at the children's museum. Those are the important things. That's quality time where she's learning and having fun. A two year old's birthday party? I can't even remember what we did for Charlie or Sierra's second birthday, and Sierra's was just last year. I think for Charlie's we just had her cousins come by our apartment, had cake, sang happy birthday, and they played. Quite honestly, it would be foolish to have some fancy expensive birthday party for a two year old even if you could afford it cause they're not gonna remember it anyway, so what's the point?
Get it together Brittany, the only things that could make you not be a great mother are feelings of inadequacy or depression. As long as you are loving, caring, and spending as much quality time with your children as you possibly can you children will have nothing but love for you, and if you are happy they will be happy.
Of course I agree w/ Marcus. You give your children what's important. Those kids are LOVED, LOVED, LOVED. That's all that matters. There are plenty people out there who grew up with tons of material crap but not the best parents, and I bet they'd take it the other way around if they could.
Cut yourself some slack Brit. Even if you did throw her a huge party the most excitin thing for a 2yr old is blowing out the candles.
You're doing great!
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