A lot of times we get great advice about why a relationship isn't good for us or how we should go about getting out of it and what not...but how often do we hear words of wisdom on how to make sure we don't take that bad relationship with us into the next one? I'm sure many of us don't even realize we're still carrying some of that baggage to our next destination until 1: someone points it out to us or 2: we go to face a problem and realize we're still using the same old crappy tools that didn't work for us the last time.
I truly believe that each real relationship that ever meant something to us even if it didn't work out should result in us being better, stronger, more educated people. You should take the good from it and enhance it, see the bad in it and make sure you don't repeat it. I believe each past relationship should assist in carving the path to the next healthier, better for us, happier relationship. Question is; how does one prevent it from carving into us?
When you allow a bad past relationship to hitch a ride on your back into your next one, you're really not giving that new relationship the chance it deserves. This new guy isn't the old one. You both are different together than you were with the last fella. A new relationship, I feel, should come with its own blank slate and hopefully the things you learned from the past one, good and bad, helped carve the right path that lead you to the new person. But if you look up and see yourself having trust issues because last dude was a liar or have problems with getting close to someone because that other person you were with smothered you 24/7, its time for you to find out where those crappy old relationships bags are hiding and get rid of them!!
Now that we've established what the right thing to do is, how does one go about doing that? A lot of times we're so afraid of the past repeating itself we hold on to those suitcases as a defense mechanism. How does one go about dropped the baggage, breathing, and enter a new relationship like it was our first?
3 comments:
....Oh brittany.
You go about moving forward by taking a leap of Faith. Nothing ever comes to sleepers but a dream. Everyone wants the big white house with the picket fence. And you know...that's cool. But we must all remember that the joy of that....is the journey it took to get there!
~YeaYa
Nothing else more profound to write Gustin??
YeaYa, thank you for those words. "Love like you've never been hurt" is easier said than done though.
Post a Comment